Dong Yuhui once said a very insightful passage:

“Never worry too much about your children,

nor worry too much about your parents,

most of your worries are basically in vain.

Because everyone has their own karma from three lifetimes,

and must reincarnate within their own karma.”

​​How many people spend their entire lives

worrying for others

​​worrying about their children

worrying about their parents

making themselves exhausted

​​What you think is responsibility

is actually overstepping

What you think is love

is actually a burden

​​Children have their own paths

they must walk themselves

Parents have their own fates

they must navigate themselves

​​You can protect for a moment, but you cannot protect for a lifetime.

​​Forcibly interfering with children

will only make them rebellious

Worrying excessively about parents

will instead add to their troubles

​​Everyone's life

has its exclusive trajectory

Suffering must be endured alone

Paths must be walked alone

​​The walls that must be hit

are all unavoidable

The flavors that must be tasted

cannot be substituted by anyone

​​Letting go of excessive worry is the greatest compassion.

​​Not forcibly changing children

Not desperately controlling parents

Respecting their choices

Accepting their lives

​​Managing your own emotions

Living your own life well

is the best fulfillment for your family

​​No entanglement, no internal strife

No overstepping, no forcing

Each performing their duty, each at peace with their fate

​​A family cares for each other

but does not bind each other

Watching over each other

but growing separately

​​This is the most comfortable familial love

the most insightful way to live

​​May we all

have one less obsession

and one more release

Guard our own karma well

Treat the relationships around us kindly

and live this life easily.