Friends in the group said they really enjoy listening to me talk about these things, so I'm sharing it out.
Many people think that men pursue women because they like them, but the truth is: they just want to "conquer" a woman to validate their own charm and value.
This psychological drive has given rise to two typical choices:
Look down > easy to deal with, no loss of face, the most comfortable
Look up > admire the strong but also want face, extremely distorted
In short, most men find the most comfortable state is to look down—satisfying their self-esteem without having to endure the pressure of being looked down upon.
And those men who admire strength and care about their image experience the greatest pain: in the process of pursuing the strong, their self-esteem could be trampled at any moment.
Interestingly, when a person stands at the top of the food chain, the source of pleasure changes— for wealthy people, trampling on others' self-esteem is much more enjoyable than trampling on their bodies.
This may be the truth of human nature's game: what men chase is never women, but the recognized "self."