A friend of mine has been in several relationships, but ultimately couldn't bear the pain of love and broke up.
Every time he vents to me about how his girlfriend torments him.
I asked him a question: how was it when you first got together? He said it was very relaxed and pleasant, and his girlfriend respected and admired him.
I immediately recognized the crux of the problem because my friend is a "soft guy."
There’s a saying that the pitiful must have their own faults; the harm caused by soft guys is no less than anyone else's. They not only harm themselves but also their partners, affecting the entire male community.
Because soft guys are submissive and have no bottom line, they keep giving up their boundaries in front of their partners. The partners then feel that soft guys are easy and boring, leading to impatience and increasing irritability towards them, wanting to say a few words whenever they see a soft guy.
Soft guys also feel very aggrieved, thinking that if they treat her so well, why is she so harsh with me? In fact, soft guys are just trying to satisfy their own submissive desires. They feel uncomfortable if they don't submit for a day, so they disguise it as giving to others, but mainly it’s about their own comfort.
Therefore, soft guys are a group that causes even more harm than delicate girls. No transaction means no harm. Fellow men, stand firm, take responsibility, start by loving yourself, for the sake of those you love, and don’t be a doormat!
